Engaging in actual help (Gender-based Violence)

In light of the recent marches and focus on gender-based violence here are some practical ways people can engage in a helpful solution.

Donate toiletries (soap, facecloth, sanitary pads, toothpaste, toothbrush, shampoo, body lotion, deodorant) and new panties (in all sizes – child to large adult) to:

Name of organisation Brief description Contact details
Jess Foord Foundation Rape Crisis Counselling and support ADDRESSOffice 1, Aloe Block

Fairway Greens

3 Abrey Road

Kloof, 3610


0861 333 449




Hope’s Anchor Hope restoring to Sex Trafficked people EMAIL info@hopesanchor.org.za WEBPAGEHopesanchor.org.za
Domino Foundation Red Light Restoration of Sex workers Offices are based at Anthem ChurchADDRESS37 Mackeurtan Avenue,
Durban North, South Africa


031 563 9605



Umgeni Community Empowerment Centre One of their programs focusses on Sex workers and human trafficking TELEPHONE 031 824 7951 EMAIL:hello@ucec.org.zaADDRESS

16 Mona Road, Durban Central


Or donate to the organisations so that they can pay their staff to reach those women that need your help and support. So donate to any of the above or here are some other options:

Name Brief description Contact
Trulife Life skills education to high school students ADDRESS14 Lyngarth Road, Kloof EMAIL



079 477 3740

Hope for the Heart Pregnancy Crisis Centre Assist with women who are in crisis due to unplanned pregnancies EMAILjanewrightstar@gmail.com ADDRESS


Open Door Crisis Centre Counselling and Shelter for abused and trafficked women EMAILinfo@opendoor.org.za TELEPHONE

031 709 2679


7 Windsor Road, Pinetown

Unseen Hierarchies

I sat in a funding meeting once with the Donor and a NPO we had partnered with, to do a particular project. Some history on this meeting, to set the scene; this project had taken me two years of research before even proposing it to anyone. In the end, I was offered funding by two different companies.  It was an exciting project, innovative and ground breaking.  After a lot of deliberation I had already turned down one of the donors, and was sitting in the meeting with the other donor. So in the meeting the donor looks at the proposal that he has agreed to and starts adding his own ideas, none of which would work for the project we wanted to implement, and would turn our project into something it was never meant to be. My NPO partner straight away started agreeing with the donor. The heat rose in my face, I was thinking how on earth I was going to manage to ask the other donor for the money again.  I was horrified that the other NPO leader was so easily swayed.  I decided I had to put my foot down – I really had nothing to lose with that donor.  I told him the reasons it would work my way and why his additions would not.   He listened and agreed.  The money, and respect, was ours.  If I had bent to his wishes we would have had a failed project and would have to explain to the donor why we did not deliver.  Not all money offers are worth taking.

Too long have the NPO’s been walking around with a begging bowl to see what scraps of funding they can gather, from whoever they can amass them from. This has resulted in an unseen hierarchy.  Businesses and Donors lord over NPO’s often dictating what they do in their programs, without understanding the “client” (the beneficiary).  NPO’s need to come to the realisation, truly realising, in their hearts, that they are the expert in their field. They know their community, their beneficiary, their cause, their social ill, inside and out.  They dedicate their lives to researching and resolving it. The outcome of their hard work is not a trade-able commodity and therefore they require donors to fund their work. Donors who hate the issue but are not called to do the work with the beneficiary directly become part of the solution by providing the funds to run the business of the NPO.   That is how the relationship works best.  Both are parties that that want to see the same result.  One is a capitalist venture that is there to make money, and as much of it as possible, and change the world for the better.  The other exists to care for the less fortunate, or voiceless and to change the world for the better.  The end goal is the same.  Let’s play to our strengths and find the right partners to do so.

Engage wisely

My mom told me a story of when we had just moved house (we moved many times in my childhood) and this particular story stuck with me. 

It had been a rough week of packing boxes ensuring all crockery and glassware made the journey safely.  She arrived at our new home, excited for the new chapter of life but exhausted from what lay behind and anxious for what lay ahead – another week of unpacking those same boxes and finding new places for everything.  The removal van arrived and started offloading our belongings and then a very well-meaning neighbour visited – so excited to come and welcome us to the neighbourhood and meet a new friend.  In her hands was the most beautiful bunch of flowers to brighten our new home.  Quite a contrast to the chaos of the dusty boxes piled everywhere.  My mom burst into tears as she realised she did not know which box the vase was in. That beautiful bunch of flowers was doomed to lie in the sink and block the way until they died.


I tell this story because this is what we are doing to these unfortunate people who have been impacted by the recent floods in Durban.  We are pitching up at their door (if they have one) with food, clothes and blankets and they have nowhere to put them, nowhere to store it to keep it dry.  Yes, I cannot deny that those items are needed and welcomed; but what they really need is their house fixed and free of mud.  The best way you can help in the situation is get hold of a NPO operating in the area you want to make a difference and either make a cash donation so they can help the people or donate building materials (roof sheets, builders plastic, cement, bricks, pallets, wood, nails, hammers, spades; literally anything that can be used to get a house structure back together).  The best way to get involved is to give in a way that truly helps and not just patches your need to have been involved.  Come on Durban, let us engage the problems we face wisely that make lasting impact.  Let us see Durban become the most caring City. Let us do this together.

Bucket Drive 2017

During November and December an amazing campaign, CITYSERVE, is organised by City Story Durban.  Their goal every year is to unite hundreds of people for a week and give them the chance to bless and be blessed by those who are less fortunate, or those just in need of some extra support.  From the 26th November to the 2nd December, congregations of various churches were invited to engage with either a project that was organised through a church’s mission, or partner with one of CITYSERVE’s pre-identified projects (bucket drive, feeding schemes, night missions, street clean-ups, etc).

We are Durban is heavily involved in the annual Bucket Drive and work closely with Olive Tree Church (Florida Road, Kloof, Salt Rock).  Through this network over 700 buckets were packed with groceries and distributed to ten organisations!  We are grateful to everyone that got involved from buying a bucket and filling it with groceries or helping to check the contents of every bucket or driving to collect or deliver.  There were many tired bodies but the smiles and shouts of joy on the receiving end made it all worthwhile.

A special thank you to the businesses that were challenged and generously gave towards this project: Headwear 24, Illovo Sugar and VUM Insurance.

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Impact Zone – NPO Conference

“Let’s go surfin’ now…..Everybody’s learning how….Come on and safari with me…”

With a surfing themed NPO Conference, how could we not begin this report with lyrics from the iconic Beach Boys!

It was perfectly titled “Impact Zone” and lived up to its name in every way.   It was a conference on setting a NPO for a successful 2018.

We were treated to fantastic speakers again with Travis Gale from Apple Tree speaking on the culture in the workplace.  He challenged the delegates to ensure their values are aligned. He encouraged teams to spend time speaking up when there is conflict so that it is resolved timeously as it impacts on the organisation.  Travis encouraged us to remember we are adults having conversations with adults and to whenever we have to deal with situations to ensure we respond as an adult no matter how we are being treated.  Great wisdom to ensure our organisations “shred”!

Simon Kozlowski (The Reinvention Coach) was back again giving great insight that will set up our NPO’s to “set their line” for 2018.  His great model makes large changes manageable and attainable.  We look forward to seeing Durban flourish due to goals being met next year.

We were able to allow our organisations to “Hang ten”, while we had a surprise guest performance by Freddy Lalendle, of The Voice fame.  His unique sound resulted in him progressing well in Season 2 of the Voice.  His love of the NPO sector meant giving back was a easy yes when asked.  Thanks for sharing your gift with us.

Craig Mannheim (Unprecedented Pictures), got everyone to turn their smartphones into fancy cameras taking beautiful pictures that can be used in marketing material, social media and reporting.  Craig is a fantastic asset to our organisation and was such a blessing to those who heard him speak.

Our desig(nerd), Sarah McKenzie, shared incredible insight into telling a story with your material you release.  Useful tips and trends were shared so we know that all our NPO’s ideas will be “off the wall”.  Sarah has been volunteering her time, talent and energy to we are Durban making our branding incredible.  It was so exciting to see her on stage sharing the gift with 40 other organisations.

So as we head into summer and our thoughts head to the beach, we hope that all who attended our final conference for 2017, will be reminded of the valuable lessons learnt and incredible connections made this year.  May this time be a time of regrouping and setting up for an excellent 2018 in the “Impact Zone”!

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As I reached the summit of the umpteenth hill on my afternoon run there was a lady waiting for her lift.  I timed my words with the exhale, as a pant is all I could do at this stage. “Morning”. We looked each other in the eyes.  “morning”, she replied.  A smile clearly in her eyes.  A connection made. I laugh, inwardly (there is no way I could get it out at this stage). Even in my jumble, a stark contrast comes to mind. A run, a week ago, in one of our other South African cities…

I went to reception of the B&B I was staying in and asked where in the area is not safe to run.  The man behind the counter appears confused, “where are you from?”. “Durban”, I reply. “Lady, you’re in X now, I wouldn’t go running here, you’ll get mugged!”.  I had to do some exercise, so I made a compromise and ran up and down the short distance in front of the B&B. Not at all satisfying but it was better than nothing and being cooped up all day!  The first commuter comes towards me. I look for his eyes; he looks away as I say “hi”.  No response. I try again on the next one, except I don’t get any eye contact at all. It gives me the feeling of unease and isolation amidst people, like no one trusts anyone here.

So as I push through the remainder of my run back in our wonderful city, I ponder the difference.  Everyone I go past, there is a “hello”, “sawubona”, “yebo”, “afternoon” and the occasional “morning” (which rather forgivingly, is smiled at, maybe because the person who receives it thinks I am out of my mind anyway for running). There is a connection.  Though we are different; different races, genders, age groups, social classes; we are people.  How did we get it right in Durban? That is the question on my mind.   Has the Peace Agency’s Stop Crime Say Hello campaign really worked well? Or maybe it has something to do with our Zulu culture. Is there, perhaps, something in the greeting of, “Sawubona” that has instilled a togetherness, even across difference?

Sawubona. The spirit in me sees the spirit that is in you. I know it is not considered “cool” among the many of the youth and young adults in Durban.  They say it is overused and outdated.  I want to argue that it potentially is the “warmth” of Durban.  Every person is yearning for connection.  It is the very essence of humanity to be a part of something.  I feel that here we have a connection, a togetherness, an openness. Though we do not always fully understand each other, we realise every person is a person created for community. I dare say we need to fight to maintain “Sawubona” and its plural “Sanibonani” in our culture, despite how “uncool” it may be. From my recent experience out of town, there is no place I would rather be. Well done Durban, I am proud to be a part of this community.  It truly is the “warmest place to be” and not because of our weather!

Linda Morrison

Amashova 2017

We had a small team of 17 cyclists rode the Amashova Cycle Race, on Sunday 22 October, in our beautiful jerseys to raise funds and awareness for the work we do.

This year, the funds they raised, will be used to develop a We are Durban Volunteer App to make volunteering in Durban easily accessible and more effective!  We will update you on how much was raised when all monies are collected.  The app is going to cost us in the region on R300,000. We have R50,000 in the bank and we are looking to raise the remaining amount.  Contact volunteer@wearedurban.com for more information on the app.

So we give a massive thank you to our cyclists, their seconds, generous sponsors and cheerleaders…well done for your efforts in making a change in Durban!


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Volunteering: You at your Best

Volunteering: Part 2

With our Volunteer induction having just happened on Monday 2 October, it felt fitting to post another article on volunteering well.

In eThekwini we have about 3500 registered NPO’s.  That is not including all the charities that are not registered as they are going on quite nicely without the paperwork.  There is a wide variety of services that are offered in various locations.  Choosing an organisation that would bring out your best or benefit from you the most can be quite daunting. But just like you (generally) do not get married on your first date, you should not pick an organisation because it is the first one you heard of.  To make the most of your volunteer time do some research before you marry yourself to an organisation.  Here are some questions to help guide you:

  • What is being done in my community? Most people cannot go off on extended volunteer trips, and when you have to travel an hour to where you are going to give your time, you probably will not last that long. Look local, local to your office so you can pop in on your way to or from work, or even during your lunch hour, or look close to home so that it is just a short trip on a weekend or during your free time.
  • Match up with what you want to do. You may have to do some real digging. Not all organisations have web presence, use your networks.
  • Prioritise your top 4 and interview them. Make a site visit and ask them questions.  You know you, they do not, find out if you are going to be a good fit in their space.  Is your heart aligned to their vision?  Is there something you can do (within your limited capacity) to help them reach their potential?
  • What are the organisations expectations of volunteers? Some organisations are very structured, you submit paperwork, you are inducted, you sign your code of conduct, and you are given a task, you are monitored. Others you can literally could do anything. If you are going to have contact with minors, you are going to be checked on the sexual offenders list and you will be required to submit a police clearance certificate.
  • What cultural boundaries am I crossing? Most of us don’t think of our own culture too much.  It’s just the way we are; the normal way we do things.  Here in Durban, we have a literal melting pot of cultures.  Where this question is only often pertinent is in foreign volunteering,  here is Durban it is relevant all the time! Be mindful that not all people you will volunteer with will react the same way you do when you work together.
  • Does the organisation have the capacity to handle a volunteer? It may seem a strange question, but volunteers take a lot of time and manpower to prepare for. Some NPO’s can cope with volunteers and others cannot.  If you feel like you going to the organisation is a burden on them, it probably is. Respect that and move on to another organisation who has the capacity to host you.  Organisations cope on minimal budget and are stretched to capacity on their human resource if you are taking someone away from their usual job or if you do not do your work to the exact standard that is required you are wasting someone’s time and sometimes the organisation’s resources.

The more knowledge you have of the organisations in your area the more you are able to help and the more likely your volunteering experience is going to add value to the community and be enjoyable for you. If you would like information on some organisations in your area, please ask us and ask one of the organisations in your area as they generally know who else is operating nearby.  Enjoy your time giving back to making Durban all it was meant to be!

We have another volunteer induction happening on 13 November.  If you would like to hear about some organisations that you would be able to serve in, in eThekwini, this will be your last chance this year! Email volunteer@wearedurban.com for more information.


It’s Time to Grow Up

Being a mom of three I have read the same books numerous times, but there is a firm favourite (so much so that I can recite the entire book!). It is called “Cave baby”, by Julia Donaldson.  In it, the cave baby paints on two sets of cave walls; his parent’s and a grey woolly mammoth’s.  Both exclaim, “Look what he’s done!”, one furious and one with pure joy.  Both are the same pictures, but they are received differently by the parents and the mammoths.  So too is the work of NPO’s, businesses and government.  We need to find the correct context and partners so that we receive the excited, “Look what he’s done!”

In reflecting on the “Aligning perspectives panel”, it reinforced the marriage analogy that Nationbuilder has developed over this past year in the collabs. I believe many of the panelists were talking about it inadvertently.  Even in their conclusions they alluded to long term partnerships being the solution to seeing sustainable social change. However, I want to lay the challenge to each partner. What was described as struggles in the partnerships between the role players in the form of problems in dealing with NPO’s, the power struggle and even in working with the government is immaturity.  The key to a great partnership is not finding the right “one”, or good chemistry between donor and funder, or great M&E structures, or even trust.  These things are wonderful but tend to be a symptom of something else, something far deeper.  I would suggest the key to beautiful, sustainable long term change in partnership is in identity.  Umemulo.   If we are truly serious about seeing complete social dignity, social health, in SA, I think we need to grow up.   We need to know who we are and what we have been called to do.  No one organization, business or system is going to bring dignity to all those who are suffering. We need to become mature in what we do and no longer play childish games.  The games we play indicate our immaturity, in the corporate world, government world and the NPO sector. The games we play are the begging game, the changing game, the blaming game, the hiding game and so many more that are unbecoming of adulthood.

Umemulo.  The person is ready to marry. They are an adult.  They know who they are, what they are doing and where they are going in life.  If a person knows their true identity, they are attractive to all around them, they accomplish much in their short years, they are focused and we are in awe of them.  Expectations are clear, and communication is easy – there are no games.  Their “yes” is yes and their “no” is no.  The same for business, government and NPO’s. Being an adult does not mean you are free of flaws and you do not make mistakes, it means that you know who you are. We are all still growing and learning, but if you know who you are, you are able to be responsible and powerful in your decision making processes.

There can be no power playing when a mature business enters into a relationship with a mature NPO. The two are partners. One may be the “breadwinner” the other is the “helpmeet”, the goal is the extension of the gospel through giving dignity to those in need, to the helpless and the hopeless of our time.  The breadwinner is created for the purpose of funding; the helpmeet is created with the purpose of meeting the need but they both have the same ultimate goal in the relationship.

Trust, they say, is earned, but there are definitely some who are more trustworthy. A mature business and NPO are much easier to trust – communication seems easier, there is no need to hide or blame as there is active growing in both.  Both develop together in a way that is healthy and beautiful and they are better at what they do because of their relationship with each other.  M&E flows freely when it comes from a mature helpmeet.  It is a minor technicality versus the focus of their effort.

What they achieve together is always way more than what each would have done on their own.  If, in Cave Baby, the mom had painted with her baby, the artwork would have been enjoyable to both and would be enriched by the experience. Let us look at who and what we are, stay focused on those things, and build partnerships that will last a lifetime as we tackle the issues that we are faced with together.

This is a blog Linda Morrison wrote for Nation Builder, after their In Good Company Conference last month.  It is a commentary on one of the sessions held there and will be worth your while reading some of the other posts around the session as well as their marriage analogy in order to fully grasp what has been said here. http://www.proudnationbuilder.co.za/single-post/2017/09/15/It%E2%80%99s-time-we-grew-up

Considering myself a Volunteer…


There is a certain amount of joy that comes from giving.  Whether it is financially or of your time and effort.  When we invest in someone and they succeed there is a deep feeling of satisfaction that comes over us.  On the other hand, when we invest and they do not succeed we get angry and hurt and it often ruins us from trying again.  I want to encourage these people to try again, and do it wisely.  The beauty of living in South Africa in a time such as this is we have plenty opportunity to engage and bring about positive change.  If every one of us saw the opportunity to be a community changer in some small way, we would definitely see a society that the world would look towards for guidance.

Working in We are Durban has given me plenty of opportunity to work with volunteers.  I have seen pitfalls and victories and I would like to share some guidance to make your volunteer experience beneficial for all parties involved; you, the beneficiaries and the organisation you partner with.

Before you engage do some soul searching.  Ask yourself the following questions and be honest with your answers;

  • Why do I want to volunteer? It may be that you want to give back to society, or you have some spare time to fill, you may be lonely and want to meet other people, you may think you are so fantastic at everything you do so you could solve the problems that everyone is having, or you are being forced to by work or school, there might be any number of reasons. Be aware that whatever your reason for volunteering is, it will come out in the quality of service you offer and the relationships you form there.
  • How much time do I have to give? This is important to know upfront otherwise you or someone is going be disappointed and struggle with you. Is it one hour a week, a morning, a month or is it full time, be clear.
  • What do you have to give? Everyone has talents and abilities. Sometime these are just what the organisation needs and sometimes they just need an extra responsible person around.  One of the best ways you can serve a need is by knowing what you have to offer up front and essentially telling the organisation you want to come in and offer this or that service and these will be the benefits of that.  In a way that will not drain the organisation and will not require the organisation to raise funds to cover you.
  • Am I able to be consistent? There is a reason you go into work every day, your employer needs a job done.  If you volunteer you will be given a task that needs to be done, if you are inconsistent or unreliable you will be given tasks that do not actually matter.  This will be demoralising and you will eventually stop.
  • What would I like to see changed in the world? We are all wired differently, some of us love children, some of us are angry with human trafficking or prostitution, some have the grace to bring some dignity to the homeless person and others wish drugs had a face so that they could punch it… there are so many issues that could be tackled. What does your heart bleed for? If I cannot post a picture of me doing this on social media would I still want to do it? Do this thing and it will make your work you do in that field so much sweeter, your victories greater and your asks of others way easier.
  • Am I a starter, a worker or a finisher? Most people are naturally one of these. If you realise what part in the process you best fit, you can suggest to the organisation that this is where you would best serve.  I know for me I like to start things, give a vision and a system and let someone else finish it.  It is hard for me to maintain my energy and focus to the end, but when it is complete I get very excited.

Volunteering should be an extension of who you are.  It should be natural and freeing and not something in which you have to study to fill a position.  If you are volunteering out of your capacity, you will find it difficult and a slog and it you will eventually quit. You are a solution to an organisation’s problem, you need to be true to who you are to fill their need.  Take the time to know you, before you try to fix someone else.

Written by: Linda Morrison